Self-Care should be a non-negotiable, but sometimes it's mandatory when you've had a bad day!
We all have bad days. But sometimes we have to remember it’s just one day. I personally have been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder (GAD), so I’ve learned a few tips & tricks for self care to get myself feeling better – or at least distracted until I can truly calm down.
However, you don’t need to have a ‘mental condition’ in order to practice self-care. Self-care is important for everyone; we all deserve to have time to ourselves!
In fact, writing this post is just one form of self-care and decompression for me. So, today I would like to share some of my favorite ways to cope with my stress and anxiety.
5 Tips for Self-Care When You're Stressed the F*%k Out
Turn off your phone.
In order to be most present for those around you, and for your own mental clarity, you need to turn off your phone. Learn to let go of small distractions so that you may have a moment to think on what ails you.
For example, the other day I felt like I have been upsetting everyone around me by being too bold and selfish. I tried rectifying a situation with my boyfriend through text while he was at work, but at one point it felt as if I was tweeting him – no reply from the void. Then, I received a text message from my father telling me I was inconsiderate and while I replied, my mind immediately started self-sabotaging and telling me, “It’s not enough. You’re still a failure.”
I then turned my phone off. I chose to allow myself the mental space to be by myself until I could compose myself and reply objectively, instead of replying with my feelings.
Light some incense and meditate.
I love incense and mindfulness moments. This is essentially another way of saying, “Disconnect from the world to connect with yourself.”
There are some great resources to guide your meditation, but I personally start with deep breaths until I calm down. I will feel my heart-rate slow and my body relax. Once I have calmed down, I can think about everything that has been bothering me, judge my reactions, then decide my next course of action.
Bonus tip: There are many variations of mindfulness I employ. Sometimes I might pray, other times I may meditate with my crystals, and other times I may draw a few tarot cards to help me work through a problem!
Take a walk.
I am guilty of being that girl that used to get in her car and drive as far as she could until she would calm down. Sometimes, I would even be crying! Now that I’m wiser with age, I would highly advise against driving and crying! However, if you live with others and need a moment to yourself, walk it out!
There have been times when I have been so upset that I absolutely needed to be left alone. And for the majority of my life, I’ve always lived with someone. I feel that walking it out helps because you are focused on keeping yourself composed while you’re out and about; I know I’m not about to walk about and cry for everyone to see!
Keeping active also releases endorphins, making you feel better, sooner. I know I also enjoy the fresh air and it keeps the feeling of ‘claustrophobia’ at bay!
Bonus tip: If you’re a dog parent, take one of your dogs for a walk! My fur babies bring me so much joy! It’s hard to feel frustrated when you’re staring at a happy tail!
Take a Bath.
I love taking baths, but I hardly ever indulge. My boyfriend knows it’s about that time when I scrub our tub back to a crystal white, though. And then I’ll grab a towel to put behind my head, a water so I don’t get dehydrated from all of the sweating and a nice lil bath bomb.
Lately, I’ve been trying out all of the bath bombs from the Kush Queen’s Complete Mini Collection. They are infused with CBD (not psychotropic) to help put my mind and body in a relaxed state.
Bonus tip: Grab a chair to place your laptop on a safe place to watch Netflix, or read a book on Amazon’s Kindle app through your phone! Honestly, it’s the only way I can sit in a tub for 20+ minutes without getting bored!
Call a loved one.
It could be your mother, or maybe your best friend. But sometimes, we all need someone to listen to what we are going through, empathize with our feelings, and be validated. Even when I know that I am in the wrong and I know exactly what my mother will say, I will still call her to let her know, “Hey, I’m kind of freaking out right now. . . “
Sometimes, you just need to share your story. Many times you end up talking yourself through how to get better by having a chat – as long as you aren’t in the “I need to turn my phone off” phase!
Do something you love. I’m doing it right now, but writing and sharing with you. But, you could go to the gym if lifting weight are your thing. Go grab your guitar if music is your thing. Just find (or test out) a hobby. It’s a great way to get yourself out of your mind and to focus on something productive!